Preventing the January Spending Hangover by Controlling Holiday Spending

Much like drinking, spending in excess during the holiday season can give you a nasty hangover in the following months. Not long after we make our financial New Year's resolutions, we're faced with bills that can tumble our annual goals like a Jenga tower. So before you make the trip to the mall or navigate to your favorite online store, make sure that you know your tolerance for spending. And if you're already carrying a balance on your Visa, you're a lightweight and should sip rather than gulp when passing your plastic to vendors.

Take a look around your house. Or if you have one, look in your attic or in your garage. How much crap do you have laying around that simply takes up space and is never used? If your house is anything like ours, you're probably overwhelmed. Somehow all of those "useful" little gadgets like foot baths, back massagers, golf-themed desk ornaments, ugly sweaters, and wall-mounted singing fish have lost their holiday luster. Chances are, those for whom you're buying gifts this season have their own similar stockpiles of Chinese-made widgets that outlived their usefulness by January 10th of the year following that in which they were given. Turn things around this season by giving reasonable gifts that neither waste your money nor beg to be dumped in storage by your family and friends.

Here on Tepom.com, I've always been a proponent of planned and controlled spending. This is especially important during the holidays. All too often we decide to wing it with gift giving, buying whatever for whomever we deem important in a valiant -- yet irresponsible -- effort to be extraordinarily thoughtful. But just as we should create a spending budget each month for groceries, restaurants, and travel, we should plan ahead of time for our end-of-year gift giving extravaganza. Here are a couple of easy ways to do so:

Don't be afraid to buy a Christmas gift in the summer
If you're out shopping in the spring or summer months and see something that reminds you of a friend for whom you'll most likely get a Christmas gift, buy it. There's no rule that says there needs to be snow on the ground to buy a holiday gift. By buying early you'll avoid the pressures of last-minute shopping and hopefully avoid the default Applebees gift card. You'll also spread out your spending throughout the year.

Save regularly and specifically for gifts
An old coworker of mine had a great system for saving for the holidays. He set up a regular savings transfer every month though his online banking. Twice a month, on payday, he transferred $75 to a special account designated for Christmas gifts. Though it was tough at first to part with the $150 per month, it made the price tags of the PS3s, iPods, and new bikes much easier to swallow.

Social pressures are another reason that we spend too much during the holidays. Honestly, I believe that we put way too much thought into how others will judge our gift giving. We may want to impress someone with a lavish gift. Or we may feel obligated to spend a certain amount on someone because we spent a higher amount on another person. Or we might want to wow our obscure friends and colleagues with an incredible bout of thoughtfulness by remembering to buy a gift for everyone that we've ever shook hands with. Here are a few tips to handle the social pressures of gift giving:

Look out for #1
It's only natural to want to show off a little bit with our purchases, whether they're for ourselves or our loved ones. And as much as we like to impress our friends, coworkers, and family members with expensive gifts, we only hurt ourselves if we can't really afford expensive gifts. So before embarking on your holiday shopping adventure, remember that impressing others comes at a cost. No one over the age of twelve will think any less of you for being financially responsible with your gift giving. And furthermore, before over-extending yourself with a gift for your boss, remember that he knows how much money you make!

Check reciprocity and equality at the door
This is one of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to Christmas. During a season when we're supposed to be focused on family and love and peace and all that stuff, many of us are too focused on equality and reciprocity of gift values. "If my brother's gift cost $50 and my sister's gift cost $30, then I need to spend another $20 on my sister." Bullshit. Unless you're giving all of your grandkids a card with $50 in it, you can easily overdo it by trying to achieve total equality. "Well, my friend bought me a $50 gift card, so I need to spend at least $50 on her." Horseshit. You should buy gifts for your loved ones that you think they'll appreciate and enjoy. Don't get them gifts just to even the scales. The more we steer our holiday values toward consumerism and dollars and cents, the further we migrate from the true values of the season.

Send Christmas cards
Some of us more than others can bring thoughtfulness to near-obsessive levels. Wanting to think of everyone, we may buy small gifts for everyone in our Rolodex. And sure, they'll be thankful for us thinking of them, but the costs can really add up come New Year's. Instead of getting a gift for each of your coworkers, your spouse's coworkers, and all of your family friends, fill your outbox with Christmas cards. For less than a dollar apiece, you'll remind your life acquaintances that you care and you're thinking of them. Truth be told, not everyone expects something from you. So when you send your cards in lieu of gifts, think of it as going above and beyond.

The holidays are a fun time of the year during which we eat, drink, and spend a little too much. But by planning ahead of time and controlling your gift spending, you can reserve your brainpower in January for figuring out how to work off those December love handles rather than how to pay off that looming credit card bill. When it comes to buying gifts, don't put more pressure on yourself than your wallet can handle. After all, the holidays are about being with each other, not buying for each other.