Preventing the January Spending Hangover by Controlling Holiday Spending

Much like drinking, spending in excess during the holiday season can give you a nasty hangover in the following months. Not long after we make our financial New Year's resolutions, we're faced with bills that can tumble our annual goals like a Jenga tower. So before you make the trip to the mall or navigate to your favorite online store, make sure that you know your tolerance for spending. And if you're already carrying a balance on your Visa, you're a lightweight and should sip rather than gulp when passing your plastic to vendors.

Take a look around your house. Or if you have one, look in your attic or in your garage. How much crap do you have laying around that simply takes up space and is never used? If your house is anything like ours, you're probably overwhelmed. Somehow all of those "useful" little gadgets like foot baths, back massagers, golf-themed desk ornaments, ugly sweaters, and wall-mounted singing fish have lost their holiday luster. Chances are, those for whom you're buying gifts this season have their own similar stockpiles of Chinese-made widgets that outlived their usefulness by January 10th of the year following that in which they were given. Turn things around this season by giving reasonable gifts that neither waste your money nor beg to be dumped in storage by your family and friends.

Here on Tepom.com, I've always been a proponent of planned and controlled spending. This is especially important during the holidays. All too often we decide to wing it with gift giving, buying whatever for whomever we deem important in a valiant -- yet irresponsible -- effort to be extraordinarily thoughtful. But just as we should create a spending budget each month for groceries, restaurants, and travel, we should plan ahead of time for our end-of-year gift giving extravaganza. Here are a couple of easy ways to do so:

Don't be afraid to buy a Christmas gift in the summer
If you're out shopping in the spring or summer months and see something that reminds you of a friend for whom you'll most likely get a Christmas gift, buy it. There's no rule that says there needs to be snow on the ground to buy a holiday gift. By buying early you'll avoid the pressures of last-minute shopping and hopefully avoid the default Applebees gift card. You'll also spread out your spending throughout the year.

Save regularly and specifically for gifts
An old coworker of mine had a great system for saving for the holidays. He set up a regular savings transfer every month though his online banking. Twice a month, on payday, he transferred $75 to a special account designated for Christmas gifts. Though it was tough at first to part with the $150 per month, it made the price tags of the PS3s, iPods, and new bikes much easier to swallow.

Social pressures are another reason that we spend too much during the holidays. Honestly, I believe that we put way too much thought into how others will judge our gift giving. We may want to impress someone with a lavish gift. Or we may feel obligated to spend a certain amount on someone because we spent a higher amount on another person. Or we might want to wow our obscure friends and colleagues with an incredible bout of thoughtfulness by remembering to buy a gift for everyone that we've ever shook hands with. Here are a few tips to handle the social pressures of gift giving:

Look out for #1
It's only natural to want to show off a little bit with our purchases, whether they're for ourselves or our loved ones. And as much as we like to impress our friends, coworkers, and family members with expensive gifts, we only hurt ourselves if we can't really afford expensive gifts. So before embarking on your holiday shopping adventure, remember that impressing others comes at a cost. No one over the age of twelve will think any less of you for being financially responsible with your gift giving. And furthermore, before over-extending yourself with a gift for your boss, remember that he knows how much money you make!

Check reciprocity and equality at the door
This is one of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to Christmas. During a season when we're supposed to be focused on family and love and peace and all that stuff, many of us are too focused on equality and reciprocity of gift values. "If my brother's gift cost $50 and my sister's gift cost $30, then I need to spend another $20 on my sister." Bullshit. Unless you're giving all of your grandkids a card with $50 in it, you can easily overdo it by trying to achieve total equality. "Well, my friend bought me a $50 gift card, so I need to spend at least $50 on her." Horseshit. You should buy gifts for your loved ones that you think they'll appreciate and enjoy. Don't get them gifts just to even the scales. The more we steer our holiday values toward consumerism and dollars and cents, the further we migrate from the true values of the season.

Send Christmas cards
Some of us more than others can bring thoughtfulness to near-obsessive levels. Wanting to think of everyone, we may buy small gifts for everyone in our Rolodex. And sure, they'll be thankful for us thinking of them, but the costs can really add up come New Year's. Instead of getting a gift for each of your coworkers, your spouse's coworkers, and all of your family friends, fill your outbox with Christmas cards. For less than a dollar apiece, you'll remind your life acquaintances that you care and you're thinking of them. Truth be told, not everyone expects something from you. So when you send your cards in lieu of gifts, think of it as going above and beyond.

The holidays are a fun time of the year during which we eat, drink, and spend a little too much. But by planning ahead of time and controlling your gift spending, you can reserve your brainpower in January for figuring out how to work off those December love handles rather than how to pay off that looming credit card bill. When it comes to buying gifts, don't put more pressure on yourself than your wallet can handle. After all, the holidays are about being with each other, not buying for each other.

Why a Black-Coffee Management Style Would Have Saved Starbucks

In a waiting room magazine I once read that Howard Schultz, the founder and CEO of Starbucks, ironically prefers black coffee to any of the outrageous hot or cold drinks offered by the morning/afternoon/evening "fix" giant. The pied piper of java himself sticks to the core of coffee, and I think that says a lot about him as a person. Black coffee is strong and bold; it is foundational and pure; it's as American as Lewis and Clark; and though it is so incredibly simple, it's almost against-the-grain. Now I understand that not everyone likes black coffee. Some think it's bitter and rather plain, which is why Starbucks' overhead menu is bigger than that of McDonalds. And just as their menu appears to be slightly cocky and over-the-top (a 13-shot venti soy hazelnut vanilla cinnamon white mocha with extra white mocha and caramel? You've got to be kidding me!), in recent years their business plan started to follow suit by adding dozens of stores to every corner of the globe. Today, with profits down an astounding 97%, the executives at Starbucks are starting to feel an awful lot like mortgage lenders, cleaning the gum off their faces from a freshly-popped bubble.

Now that the economy is looking like a typical season for the Pittsburgh Pirates (they suck, BTW), consumers are cutting back on spending like never before. And luxuries -- like Starbucks -- are hurting the most. We're through with our smoke-'em-if-you-got-'em (and-borrow-'em-if-you-don't-got-'em) spending habits and have moved to a more conservative way of living, as if we just discovered that we can actually brew coffee at home. We're starting to treat fru-fru coffee as a luxury now as opposed to an everyday entitlement. And guess what -- if Starbucks had stuck to a simple, black-coffee management style, they would've seen it coming.

Am I saying that we should never drink Starbucks because it's a luxury? Absolutely not. Actually, I almost always drink Starbucks when I'm at the mall watching my wife spend money on clothes that cost a hell of a lot more than my cup of coffee. I can probably count on two hands the amount of times that I visit a Starbucks each year. But when I think of coffee spending getting out of hand, a story comes to mind. While enjoying a hot drink with my in-laws at their local 'bux, I spotted a woman waiting in the 15-person line. She carried her own purple mug (going green -- nice), but it had a homemade sticker on it; I investigated. On the sticker was printed the exact specifications of her favorite [complicated] drink, the details of which I will not bore you with. I couldn't believe it! This seemingly frivolous experience (which we recognize with every $4 coffee joke we make) had become an obvious daily habit of this woman. After I watched her pass her mug across the counter, I noticed many of the other patrons in line ordering their drinks without even glancing at the menu. They were hooked, too.

A big reason that the economy is where it is today is that people spent outside of their means for several years. Today, the average amount of household credit card debt is over $8,000. And though the woman with the purple mug may have very well been wealthy and within her means while indulging in her $100/month habit, I've got to imagine that at least half of those people in line were part of the startling outside-of-our-means American spending statistic.

Did Starbucks know that consumer debt was spreading like a California wildfire? They must have. Did they know that their coffee was expensive? Umm, does a bear shit in the woods? Despite evidence that Americans were becoming poorer and the clear and present fact that their product was expensive and easily replaced by a much less expensive homemade substitute, Starbucks continued to build store after store after store. Now, with profits down for the count, they're closing hundreds of their locations to make up for their grossly overestimated forecasts that, frankly, were as ridiculous and pretentious as their holiday coffee selection.

I'm sorry to pick on Starbucks. What's happening to them is happening to a lot of businesses, which is why so many Americans are losing their jobs and, subsequently, their mortgages. When Americans as a whole strayed from a reasonable and symmetrical expense/income ratio, businesses like Starbucks saw the desert mirage of infinite exponential growth that, in reality, was merely dust. This is why I preach, day after day, the covenants of responsible spending.

Responsible spending helps individuals by allowing them to save for the future. It allows them to keep more of their own money and to live a sustainable and healthy financial life. Responsible spending helps the entire nation by eliminating these false forecasts of eternal growth and profits for businesses. It keeps the economy in check, managing inflation and stabilizing cash flow. Keep in mind that I am an absolute proponent of spending money. Spending is the be-all-end-all of a capitalist society. And if we as a people bought only the bare essentials, we'd eat nothing but rice and all live in caves. But by buying the things that we don't need day after day for years and years, we become a gluttonous society that cannot sustain itself, much like a balloon. Now, because of America's overspending -- much like overeating -- we must reduce our consumption to below normal levels to get back to the point of a healthy equilibrium.

So while irresponsible customer spending helps companies like Starbucks in the short term by giving astounding inflated profits for a few years, it can destroy them in the long term. If Howard Schultz had stuck to a black-coffee, back-to-the-basics management style, he would have recognized the looming bubble and directed the company proportionately. Like black coffee, it would have been simple, yet against the grain, to slow expansion -- but it would have saved his ass. Instead, for years he and his stockholders were swooning over the streams of cash and credit pouring through the doors and laughing all the way to the bank. But who's laughing now?

The Inability to Say No and Having Ritz-y Taste on a Econo Lodge Budget

I usually hate to give generic, common-sense financial advice that you can find anywhere on the internet. The most common is "instead of buying a cup of coffee at Starbucks, put that money into a savings account." No shit. My readers are not stupid and I'm not going to insult you by giving that kind of cookie-cutter advice.

Today's post will consist of something like observational humor, except not funny...at all (that was kind of funny, right? No? OK, I'll move on). I'll highlight some of my specific observations related to people's spending habits that drive me nuts -- especially when I see those in question complain about their finances or at least imply their struggles.

#1 - The inability to say "no" to your friends
Many people are aware that they've got financial difficulties, yet accept any invitation to spend money, as if it is OK to do it because it wasn't their idea. If you know that you're going to be short on rent for next month but your friend invites you on a weekend road trip, what should you should say? "Hell no!" Making excuses for spending money is easy. Just because it was someone else's idea doesn't mean it's any less of a poor decision.

If you're invited to spend money and cannot afford it, it's OK to say no. In fact, some of your friends and family might respect you for it. Whether the invite is direct, like "Want to go to Cancun this winter?" or indirect, like "Hey Bob -- all of us bought new Macbook laptops -- where's yours?" you need to learn to say no. There is simply no point in taking the time to come up with spending and financial goals if they can be so easily changed by some peer influence.

#2 - Ritz-y taste, Econo Lodge income
Regardless of the weakness, I see that many people have at least one. Whether it's designer clothing, organic groceries, a certain brand of electronics, or the refusal to cook for oneself, every day I see people that cannot afford their personal luxuries try to justify them. Here are some real, specific examples with fake names:

- Joe is unemployed, has a young child, no savings, and a wife working a low-paying full-time job, recently refused a truck full of free furniture from his grandmother for his new apartment because he's "looking for matching stuff."
- Devin struggles to pay his mortgage and other bills, yet goes out to lunch every day because he hates to cook and thinks it's a good way to socialize.
- Fred has thousands of dollars in credit card debt yet buys expensive designer clothes every month.
- James uses his first paycheck from his first job out of college to buy a Hi-Def TV and a Wii.
- Tom has many tens of thousands of dollars in student loans but goes to the bars with his friends every Friday and Saturday night.
- Tracy has a very low income and is unsure how she'll pay her rent for the month. Yet she refuses to do her grocery shopping at any place other than the specialized organic food store.

Am I trying to say that you can't have matching furniture, a Hi Def TV, or designer clothes? Abosolutely not. Am I saying that you can't eat organic food, go out to lunch, or drink beer at a bar? No. What I'm saying that that you cannot classify these items as affordable simply because they're mainstream and everyone else is consuming them or because you feel entitled to them. If you've got an Econo Lodge income, you can't stay at the Ritz.

Insisting on expensive habits when you cannot afford them is, in my opinion, the biggest reason that people get themselves into financial trouble. Consuming based on our personal preferences gives us a feeling of independence. It makes us feel like we're doing things our way on our terms. But in the end, the choices that we made that once made us feel so independent actually enslave us and forfeit our control to our creditors.

By saying "I'm going to go out to lunch if I want to," or "I'm going to eat organic food if I want to" or "I'm going to go drinking with my friends if they invite me," if you can't afford it, all you're doing is signing over control of your life every time you sign a credit card receipt.

It is often said that the troubles with today's economy stemmed from "securitizing" mortgages, which means taking big bunch of mortgages, putting them all in a box, taping it shut, writing "security #1" on it, and then selling it. Those who buy it don't have the details of what's inside -- just that it's got a bunch of mortgages. To me, not being aware of your individual transactions is the same thing. By refusing to analyze where and how you're specifically spending your money, all you're doing is looking at the credit card bill at the end of the month and seeing one big number that reflects the sum of your monthly spending. Without looking at the individual transactions and evaluating their impact on your big picture, you're simply asking for trouble -- just like the mortgage industry.

So before you start spending on one of your vices, create a budget to see what you can really afford. You may be quite surprised!